Better off having more choice? the Secret of Happiness

the number of choices had increased then 20, 15, 10 even 5 years ago,

but are they truly making our lives better and making you happier?

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the True ways to be Happy perhaps is to have lower expectations- Barry Schwartz

Have you ever feel powerless?

is there anyone tell you that you are not supposed to do this and that?
When you really wanted to and truly wants to,
all it requires is you to think through it...

and she, Amy Cuddy is going to tell you How to do it:
 

Don't fake it till you make it, fake it till you becomes it.
Do it enough until you actually becomes it and internalize.
The last thing I am going to leave you with is this, Tiny tweaks can lead to big changes - Amy Cuddy

Complete of soul or empty?

In the seven days God creation, God get a rib from man and made woman,

and said all the man and woman are finding the other half of them which has lost.

When u found it, life will change and become complete.

if we break apart from the compete, you will be go on alone by your own,

your soul will be empty or get crush.

The feelings of empty and crush have surrounded me by all the movies recently...

and also some of the things happened recently.

like the movie from the lucky special meet up by the characters,

 till they feels good about each others, go along....

then they broke up with each others.. makes them wanna die from the lonely... 

and seems lonely will dry up life and makes everyday without colours like a black & white movie.

They stop to have feelings about what's happen besides them, 

sitting in a castle looking the changes from the windows, 

months and months go on but their heart never change,

 they can't feel the joy, the happiness and sadness... or even the temperature outside...

How much love u need to offer to make your soul feel empty when u broke up?

How much miss u need then you will feel your soul being tear apart?

Selfish? Make yourself Happy now!

Sometimes people will say you're doing selfish... but actually the one who say this usually selfish himself...

Man decisions are always selfish, cause everyone decide for themselves and that's nothing but normal... Maybe sometimes people will say: you should think about others but not just yourself.but the truth is you never satisfy every single person and someone will still think you're selfish and probably you are!

Think about a CEO of the enterprise rise the salary of the employees in his company, his share holders will think he's selfish to get those claps from his employees or the society... Maybe you will say he can tale the balance point... but man are greedy... When you give them something they ask for more... You just can't balance and fixed everything they want...

Applying personal goal or own expectation to other are selfish?
People will say hey "loving others as love yourself"... The first thing come up in your mind probably will be... Give everything I like to him... These sounds nice.... You give things that what you thought it is good for him and you feel good about that too...
and is it everyone be happy for this "Love"?
If it's lucky, it do benefit someone who think the same... If not... It's gonna be poor cause he's just keep getting different expectation and thinks that he don't want...
Hmm... Sounds like the society? Cause it's happening!
Hmm... Seems so familiar? Its reality!

You never know, I never know and actually no man know the balance point cause it's changing every single second! What I will say is just do it as you will be happy... Just balance yourself and treat yourself better... What you want? Claps from your friends, employees? or from your parents, shareholders? You want both... but the reality is you can get what you want...

so sometimes make your decision fast and clear.. With your love and care means what you think you should give and have no regret!!! Just go ahead make yourself happy now!

Giving all these to you beloved one?
To someone on the street?
It is all your decision, your choice!

What is decision? Is for you to made!